When you lose your spouse you are obviously going to be experiencing something that is painful beyond words. At the same time, there are some practical matters that have to be attended to more or less right away.
This is something to keep in mind when you are originally planning your estate as a married couple. Just expressing your wishes in writing is one thing, but you have to also consider the matter of estate administration and the future estate plan of the survivor.
Because of the above estate planning should be seen as a long-term, holistic endeavor. Your original selection of an estate planning lawyer is a very important one. Ideally you will be creating a relationship with this attorney that lasts throughout your life, and perhaps through multiple generations of your family.
Your attorney understands your family dynamic, and you will know exactly where to turn when your spouse passes away to make sure that you have the appropriate legal support. Estate administration can be complicated, and your lawyer will be prepared to provide the appropriate guidance.
Once the estate of the departed spouse has been settled you can work with your attorney to create a revised plan that reflects the altered dynamic of your family.
Knowing that this ready source of support is there for you during trying times is a comforting feeling, and this is why it is important to create an ongoing relationship with your estate planning attorney.