Long Island Elder Law & Estate Planning

Sibling disputes

For most people, one of the primary reasons to create an estate plan is to ensure that their estate is distributed according to their wishes after they are gone. Another reason is to reduce the likelihood of confusion and conflict after they are gone. If you have adult children, you undoubtedly want to do all you can to prevent disputes between them as well. With that in mind, the Long Island estate planning attorneys at Eghrari Wealth Training Firm discuss what you can do within your estate plan to prevent sibling disputes.

Probate Disputes

No matter how old your children are, nor how much warning and preparation they had, the death of a parent won’t be easy to handle. There is also no universally acceptable response to death. People grieve in their own way. If you have more than one child, they may each handle your death differently. One may be angry while another remains in denial and yet another may focus on the practical steps that need to be taken. At the top of the list of practical steps will be arrangements for your funeral and the administration of your estate. Both are ripe for the possibility of conflict and disputes. Disagreements about how your body will be handled and the service to be planned could erupt almost immediately which could cause a rift that will not be easily healed. If one child is not happy about the terms of your Last Will and Testament, a Will contest could be filed. The ensuing litigation could deplete your estate assets as well as delay the completion of probate by months, even years. Fortunately, there are some steps you can take that will significantly diminish the likelihood of estate disputes between siblings.

Tips for Preventing Sibling Disputes

Nothing you do will guarantee peace and harmony between your children after you are gone; however, the following steps may help avoid disputes:

  • Appoint a neutral Executor.  Instead of appointing one of your children – which often invites animosity from the other children – consider appointing a sibling, long-time friend, or your estate planning attorney.
  • Have a complete physical prior to executing your Will.  Doing so makes it much more difficult for anyone to claim that you lacked the capacity necessary to execute a Will.
  • Include funeral and burial planning in your estate plan. As part of the plan, create a funeral trust which allows you to make it clear who will oversee your funeral by appointing a Trustee. In addition, you can use the terms of the trust to express your wishes regarding your own funeral to limit the opportunity for disputes. 
  • Do not use any DIY documents.  These are frequently riddled with errors and omissions that invite litigation. Instead, work with an experienced estate planning attorney during the creation of your estate planning documents.
  • Create a Letter of Instructions. This is a document that allows you to explain decisions you made within your estate plan or address issues not covered elsewhere in your plan. Nothing in a Letter of Instruction is legally binding; however, explaining controversial decisions can help prevent disputes.
  • Discuss your estate plan with your children. Not everyone is comfortable doing this; however, divulging the terms of your estate plan ahead of time, and providing the opportunity to discuss those terms, can reduce the possibility of disputes after you are gone.
  • Consider a no-contest clause. This is a provision in your Will or trust that disinherits a beneficiary if he/she chooses to contest your Will or trust and is unsuccessful. For a no-contest clause to work, however, the beneficiary must have something to lose, meaning they must stand to inherit something under the terms of the Will/trust.

Contact Long Island Estate Planning Attorneys

For more information, please join us for an upcoming FREE seminar. If you have additional questions or concerns about estate planning, contact the Long Island estate planning attorneys at Eghrari Wealth Training Firm by calling us at 631-265-0599 to schedule your appointment.

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Mark S. Eghrari is an attorney in private practice in Smithtown, New York. He has been in practice since 1988. Mark S. Eghrari provides extensive estate and tax planning services to individuals and businesses. Mr. Eghrari’s primary focus is helping clients avoid probate, minimize or eliminate Federal and State Estate taxes and protect their assets from the high cost of nursing care, if they become ill.